How to get soft hair?

That's kind of weird. Perhaps you should try Herbal Essences, Hello Hydration. It's what Im using, and keeps my hair pretty soft and shiny, and I have extremely dry hair, plus my hair is really frizzy in the back too, but since I've been using this it works really good. Just remember though, with all products, it takes a while for your hair to get use to it. Don't expect all the hair products and conditioners and shampoos you have will work right away to make your hair soft. It might take up to a week. Just be patient, and for now, keep your hair in a pony tail, until your hair begins to soften up more. Remember, it is summer, and it gets pretty humid. Hope this helps :)