How do I find someone when I'm in love with someone else?

you only feel this way becuase you LOVE the chase. You wont allow yourself to get that spark with the other guy becuase he doesnt give you the chase. The only reason why you still think about the other idiot is becuase you keep allowing him to use you as the person he can turn to when he is bored from his current relationships or when he is broken up and needs attention from a female till he finds another. This will continue to happen and you wont be able to form a bond with another man until you decide to be strong and cut tiees. You say that he is initiating it. Well whether you like it or not, you are letting this happen. You need to cut ties. Im a guy by the way.